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Concerns about someone who has been divorced Feb 20, 1. If you had meet someone of interest, and that had been divorced twice, what kind of concerns would you have?
We teamed up with Faith Counseling. Can they help you today? Feb 20, 2. Aside from theological concerns, I guess I'd be concerned about whether the person is willing to be committed in marriage. I feel it is important, when dating, to be upfront about things. Are you the one who is divorced twice, or are you interested in someone twice divorced?
Feb 20, 3. Jenster gives good advice. This is close to me since my brother is on his third marriage. His first ended because she did not want to be married. I think they moved too fast. His second wife has been married two times since divorcing my brother. So perhaps she wasn't ready either.
I'd be wary but like Jenster said, find out what happened in each case. My brother is a nice guy but our parents were divorced when we were in elementary school. My brother tried to "make-up" with our dad but was rejected by him. He is a softie who finds women when they are down. Then when they get back on their feet, they get bored with him. All these kinds of factors can
Dating someone who has been divorced twice a role in why someone would be unsuccessful in marriage.
Feb 21, 4. No, someome I met is divorced twice. The first one was abusive, the second time the guy was an alcholic. Both marriage happened while Dating someone who has been divorced twice person was fairly young too. Feb 21, 5. There are some issues there that would allow her to be attracted and later marry men who were obviously not the best for her. Make sure she has taken measures to overcome these issues ex. Feb 21, 6. She has been divorced for 5 years, but I do not know here relationship history since then.
Feb 21, 7. Before I was walking with God.
So I've been in counseling with my pastor, to identify my fault in those breakups and seek repentance. They were scriptural divorces, at least by my church's standards but I still needed healing.
I'm now in a courtship relationship that is going very well. So in my understanding divorce does not necessarily make a future relationship impossible, but counsel and accountability are the only wise way to go.
And I've asked my SO to test me over time and not to let her heart get too involved too quickly. She understands and has promised patience. I feel like the most fortunate guy in the world, given my past broken life. Like Dating someone who has been divorced twice 1 List. Mar 1, 8. I have been married three times. The first was when I was young and was married to a physically abusive spouse for just over a year.
Then I was married the second time for 11 years. It was truly a wonderful marrage that is deeply missed but I lost that husband to an unexpected fatal accident.
Now I have re-married and the man I remarried is wanting out of our marriage after less than a year because he doesn't want the family life and responsiblility. I am now going to counseling to make sure I don't make this kind of mistake again.
So, after all that info. I would highly recommend taking it slow. Sometimes we aren't at fault in divorce. Dating someone who has been divorced twice truly believe I haven't been at fault but I also need to know why I picked the first husband and the third. Make sure that all avenues have been looked at.
I believe long pre-martial counseling should be a requirement. I sure wish I had done that with this last marriage. Someday I may be bless from God have a secure and totally commited marriage like the middel one but I will not rush in again.
So, take some advice from someone who has learned the hard way It is God speaking to you to be cautious. I wish you happiness and God's blessings. Mar 2, 9. Move slowly and cautiously if you decide to move forward in this relationship. Please take their advice and lessons to heart, and proceed carefully. Mar 8, I agree with the others on this matter. Pray about this situation maybe there is a reason why he has been divorced 3 times. Go slowly if it is meant to be, you will know, but don't rush.
Yes, pray a lot Our former pastor and his wife The important thing, I think, is to stay malleable to the Lord If He allows a red flag to go up at some point, Dating someone who has been divorced twice want to be able to discern that.
Mar 11, The others have given good advice here. My dad and one cousin are both twice-divorced. In both cases, former spouses committed adultry.
From a woman's point of view, I have only been married once and the divorce was his choice. I was no picnic to live with and he chose Dating someone who has been divorced twice over marriage.
I was also fairly young 22 and as far as I'm concerned the victim of the 'Christians must be married by age XX' mentality.
I would tread carefully. It's possible she has some self-esteem issues that causes her to pick men who don't treat her right. I believe that you would be good to her but if she deep-down 'has' to have someone with 'issues' it could be the potential for a stormy relationship. Mar 15, Mar 16, Having been divorced twice myself, I can share that there can be different mistakes in choosing a spouse a second time around, and not all divorces are equal or come about for the same reasons.
Neither time I chose a husband was I walking with the Lord. The two men were very different. I learned a lot from the first marriage and divorce, but that didn't protect me from making other mistakes. My past is my past, and I made the mistakes while backslidden.
I am forgiven for both "Dating someone who has been divorced twice" just as I would be for one. You cannot assume that the second marriage failed for the same reasons as the first marriage, therefore you cannot judge them equally, or the unfortunate person who has been through it twice. We Dating someone who has been divorced twice we get it right, but sometimes things happen beyond our control. I would suggest getting to really know the person and the reasons for the divorces.
Mar 31, Stanfi, you have gotten a lot of good advice from a lot of good people. I, too, have been divorced twice. "If you are thinking about casually dating someone who has had First, consider why the person has been married three or four times, Parker says. Twice- married people can indicate there are issues not understood My boyfriend has been married twice Dating someone who has been divorced twice once right after college (that only lasted a year), and again in his late 20s/early 30s (that lasted six.
If you had meet someone of interest, and that had been divorced twice, what kind I feel it is important, when dating, to be upfront about things.