Many of us have experienced, or are currently on, the emotional roller-coaster that is waiting for Mr. Whether you find him at age 20, 25, or 30 you will likely experience a time of singleness and that time will likely feel like forever.
It took me 5 years from the time I was of age to figure out how to handle this whole single gal thing and I want to share what I learned with all you single ladies out there while all the emotions and experiences are still fresh in my mind. Waiting on god for the right man created us from a man with the purpose of helping a man. We, as women, are a natural complement to a man and the desire to "Waiting on god for the right man" and complete a man is naturally built into us. It is not wrong to desire a husband but there is a right way to deal with that desire.
This brings us to the first lesson I had to learn as a single: God has promised us so many wonderful things. We are promised a place in his heavenly kingdom and Romans says that all "Waiting on god for the right man" will work together for the good of those called to His purpose, just to name a few. To expect that or to make your faith depend on it is idolatry and is an attempt to play the god of your own life.
I fell Waiting on god for the right man this form of sin while in college. As it turned out playing god over my own love life turned out pretty poorly and I lost 2 years of spiritual growth that was fraught with
Waiting on god for the right man, disappointment and unnecessary emotional baggage.
I learned my lesson the hard way. Many times that temptation pulls us most when we are lonely and vulnerable. The second lesson I had to learn is that God is enough and I must rely on him.
We were created to have a relationship with God. We need and desire the unconditional love of our Savior and Creator. God and God only can fulfill that need for love that every human is born with. Even as Christians we can stray from Him and we can feel unfulfilled. If we are not turning to God to fill that hole in our hearts, we will desperately look elsewhere for that love. Too often we think a man will do the trick. This leads to despair in singleness and desperation to find a man.
Figuring out how to be satisfied solely in God is a wonderful incredibly freeing thing. He wants to be there for you, He wants you to turn to him and He will come through for you every time. This is especially important to learn before marriage.
If your identity and self-worth is primarily in God, you will be better equipped to deal with the challenges of life and marriage.
The passions and desires that God gave me seemed to line up nicely with being a wife and mother. Unfortunately, I took what God had planned for me and made it an excuse to be unproductive as a single.
Our entire career and way of life can change in a few short years after meeting Mr. Right going to come along, I stopped looking so Waiting on god for the right man at the future and I started looking around in the present. There is so much good work to do as a single. When I finally threw myself into ministry it was a huge perspective change for me.
There is so much need in the Church and in society and there I was wasting all my talents in worrying about the future. During just a year of ministry I saw several women come to know the Lord and I was lucky enough to play a role in their discovery of Christ. If I had been sitting around waiting for some guy they might not have found the truth!
Ironically enough I met my Mr. Right through one of the girls that I saw come to know Christ during my time in college ministry. There I was, finally focused on the right things and God decided it was time for me. Right when God brings him into our life.
Looking back on how I met my Mr. Right we can both see how God "Waiting on god for the right man" us together at just the right time when we were both ready. Even in your loneliness you are not alone and if you simply follow God he will have amazing things in store for you. Stay strong in the Father. Have a nice day. I absolutely love this! So glad I could help. Make the right decisions. Follow your heart, follow your gut.
Take every chance you can take to show His love. Be a good person. Im becoming a bit bitter about it because everyone else is moving forward in life with great careers, balanced lives and of course a wonderful and fulfilling love life. Love is definitely not for everyone. Im proof but even with all that said yes I agree God still has the last say in every aspect of our lives and it does help to just focus on him and your family.
Pursue what He wants for you instead of what you want for you. The Bible lists out so many things God wants for us from our character to the way we treat our relationships and those around us. This was really insightful and helpful.
Loved it, in the same situation with the ex where i lost growing time and now single and working on growing myself and with God. I wrote it because I find myself giving this advice to girls over and over.
Hello Happy New Year! I wanted to thank you for this article. Your advice has helped me to switch my focus from looking for him and gear my mentality to seek God. This was part of the support I was looking for.
Thank you so much for this post. I keep forgetting that I can find everything I need in Him. Thank you for the reminder. No problem it really is a pleasure. Gosh I feel you. Stay strong in Him. I am expected to make "Waiting on god for the right man" life choices always keeping in mind that marriage is the most important. You can watch the whole TED talk here: Your argument in this post seems to underline the happiness and spiritual fulfillment found through God is something whole and something wholly different from the satisfaction possible in romantic relationships.
At the same time, though, you undercut that point by framing your argument in terms of needing to find a man in order for your life to continue. What about putting your trust in God and following Him, period? Your twenties, thirties, and beyond will be an emotional rollercoaster filled with highs and lows, longing, and mistakes totally independent of your relationship status. I think my problem with the post is this: Thank you for your comment Ali.
The truth is most gals will end up married at some point and most want to be married someday. It is a built in desire. If you read Genesis it shows how it is a built in element of our nature. Men and women were designed for each other. On top of that marriage allows for the possibility of children.
Bringing a new soul into the world and raising it, loving it and teaching it is a special thing. The Bible talks in many places about the blessing of children and proverbs So it is no wonder that so many women aspire to be a wife and a mother.
I think it is an honorable thing to aspire too for both genders. Those are some of the reasons I framed the post that way. Although marriage is the most common and predictable major life transition for women outside of having children. I never said I needed a man for my life to continue. I found so much freedom in learning to rely
Waiting on god for the right man God alone and that freedom has carried into my current relationship. That was one of the key points in this post.
While single I worked, in fact I still work full time. I have a promising career ahead of me if I choose to pursue it and plenty of ministry opportunities through my church. If I were still single my life would go on and it would still be good and I would still hopefully be trusting God.
But because I put my trust in God period it led me right into my relationship with my future husband. I would have been ignoring what God had given me in my fiance if I had blown him off and remained single. I still find my satisfaction and fulfillment in God. Being in this relationship certainly challenges me and helps me grow and rely on God even more. Lots of Christians will tell you that marriage does that. Now once you are in a marriage the bible is very explicit, he is your head "Waiting on god for the right man" you need to follow his lead.
Is it wrong to wait for or “expect” a husband? God created us from a man with the purpose of helping a man. We, as women, are a natural. Allow God Waiting on god for the right man bring the right person in your life. In Matthew He says, “ Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about.
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